Thanks a lot for that, I'll tell you where I went wrong:-
After unpacking the zip I seen 4 folders:-
I opened up mt FTP program and I could see all of the above folders except the Xs_Mod, I read the instructions and understood that all I had to do was to replace the Admin folder form my unzipped folder to the Amin folder on my server, then the same for the rest of the folders, but as I could not see a Xs_Mod I stopped.
I am new to php and therfore very cautious. I was convinced that there should have been an existing folder in my php folder on my server, hence my original question.
I have done it now as it is working like a dream so than you very much you are anything but Useless
I have only two problems now, I cannot restore my database even though I can back it up, and I cannot get the simple image uploader to work on the helius theme, that too work great on every other theme except helius.
I don't expect any help for them two as I may be in the wrong forum here, but your have solved my greatest need so again thank you and the rest.